Strange Bedfellows: Civility in an Unexpected Place

by Peggy Kerns

Fresh from a successful campaign to defeat three ballot proposals in the 2010 Colorado general election, a mixed coalition of 60 organizations developed a statement of how they would work with public officials and each other. On Tuesday, they released An Open Letter to Colorado's Elected Leaders.

In their call for civility, the coalition of business leaders, labor unions, non-profit organizations and advocacy groups pledge to approach the Colorado General Assembly and the 112^th Congress "in a thoughtful and respect-filled manner" and they asked elected officials to do the same.

While acknowledging the many challenges that the state and nation face, the letter appeals for a civil dialogue with the...

understanding how we approach each other and elected officials… is as critical as the methods we use and the outcomes we choose.

However, we know that direct attacks and unfounded statements that are uttered in the heat of debate are harmful and only lead to further deterioration of the civility and respect that should be the cornerstone of our democratic process.

According to Denver Metro Chamber of Commerce spokeswoman Kate Horle, the release of the letter had nothing to do with tragic events in Tucson over this past weekend. "It's just weird timing," she said. "This has been in the works for weeks."

The letter was met with mixed reactions. Despite fears from some people that civility means the elimination of an honest debate, the group stands behind its pledge. Kelly Brough, president and chief executive of the Denver Metro Chamber promises that positions will still be strongly advocated, but "with decorum and consideration of all other views."

Are the fears legitimate? Does debating issues in a respectful manner diminish the debate? Teacher Barbara Montgomery doesn't think so. Montgomery wrote about freedom of speech in a July 2010 column, Freedom of speech carries the duty to act responsibly and show civility.

In addressing that free speech "protects a distressing amount of unsavory behavior," Montgomery asks, "What's the solution?" She suggests a few fundamental ethical principles.

First, acknowledge that most people who disagree with you aren't crazy or evil or stupid. Instead, show respect for the fact that, like you, they have reasons for their position that work for them.

Second, focus on the issues rather than people's personalities. Avoiding personal attacks reduces emotional reactions and makes room for rational discussion.

Third, show respect for yourself and others by telling the truth.

Fourth, think in terms of speaking and listening with the aim of understanding someone else's position rather than rushing to prove you're right. Understanding another's arguments doesn't require accepting them, and it often helps you to strengthen your own arguments.

Teacher Montgomery leaves us with relevant and, based on the current tragedy, poignant advice: "Act responsibly and show civility as you exercise your right to free speech."

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